Controlling Your Emotions

Why is it that it is so difficult sometimes to control your reactions and behaviors at home?  I often reflect on why I have such a challenging time sometimes managing my reactions when dealing with my family.  Why is it that they can push my buttons when no one else can?  For those of you that have children or a spouse, perhaps you can relate to this thought.  These are the people in your life that you have an emotional bond with.  They know you best and you have unspoken "permission" to reveal your authentic self.  This includes revealing your emotions and moods. 

I recently came across a video by Joyce Myer where she shares her light-hearted yet serious perspective on why it's important to control your emotions and moods:

http://www.joycemeyer.org/BroadcastHome.aspx?video=Moods_-_Pt_1

Could it be that the real test of our righteousness starts at home?  I believe that there is a divine purpose behind family dynamics.  Through these relationships, you develop character.  As I reflect on this, I am reminded of the nine attributes referred to as the Fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23).

     love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control

My personal synopsis of the nine attributes is "NO DRAMA".  In your close circles and relationships, you will be tested in these areas because you are supposed to be.  Every relationship has a purpose.  Do you think that it's an accident that you have a personality conflict with someone in your own household, at work or at school?  These situations and relationship dynamics contribute to your growth and they are ripe with learning experiences.  My husband and I have six children that we deal with on a daily basis.  Large families are a breeding ground for situations that can challenge your self-control if you allow them to.  My most valuable life lessons have come from reflecting on my own emotions, moods, reactions and behaviors when dealing with my family and inner circle.  My girls are very candid in sharing their observations about me. 

     "Mom, why are you angry?"
     "What's wrong with you today"

These are usually my signals to check myself and self-reflect about my attitude.  Is my authentic self a reflection of how the world sees me?  Am I maintaining the "fruit of the spirit" when challenges happen in my personal life and relationships?  You cannot control others.  However, you can control yourself.   I have learned not to focus on what needs to change in my environment without looking in the mirror.  Reflect on your own actions and reactions and allow experiences, disappointment and conflict to be a fertile ground for your growth and learning.